3 Things To Remember When Your Ambition Causes Anxiety
I surround myself with a group of hustlers.
In a time where hustling, goal setting, and being wildly successful [and wealthy] is usually at the center of the millennial mentality, anxiety has, unfortunately, become the norm for myself and my peers. Contrary to popular belief, we are not lazy and don’t expect anything to come easily. We don’t expect handouts and are usually the ones busting our asses trying to create our own business and keep our lights on at the same time.
Anyone who has goals and ambitions that exceed their own ability to imagine themselves achieving them may find themselves dealing with a case of anxiety.
“ANXIETY MAY BE A SIDE EFFECT OF PRODIGIOUS AMBITION.”
When anxiety attacks.
Anxiety for the ambitious may hit when you’re at work, thinking about how you’re wasting so much time on someone else’s clock. It can rear it’s little head when you’re on your way to a meeting to discuss your business plan or your goals with another person because you don’t know if they’ll think you’re out of your mind or not. You may even be hit with an anxiety attack out of nowhere because subconsciously, your spirit won’t let you be, knowing that you haven’t already gone after your goals!
Here are just a few things to remember when your ambition causes anxiety.
1. You can’t do everything yourself.
This is a lesson that you don’t want to learn the hard way. When you try to do everything yourself, you run the risk of burning yourself out. Try to enlist the help of a close friend (or 5) and a few family members to help you out. If you’re in business, find someone in your circle who may be passionate about the same thing that your business or idea deals with and ask them to help you out! The worst that could happen is that they could say no! The best thing that could (and probably will) happen is that they’ll be happy to help you and that they’ll be better in some aspects of the business than you are!
You’ll be happy to have someone around to help alleviate any stress or anxiety you may have about a certain aspect of achieving you goals.
2. Don’t try to do everything at once.
When you know what the end goal is, it’s overwhelming to think about how you’re going to get there when you don’t have a clear plan of action. I’ve talked about goal setting here before, but to sum it up, take the end goal and work it backwards! I want to have a nonprofit organization and a huge warehouse building where students can come every day after school for tutoring, homework help, mentorship, free wifi, and FOOD.
When I picture this in my mind, I get overwhelmed! So, I wrote down my end goal (The Judah Society) and worked it backwards! What do I need to do before I open this building? Design it, of course? Before the design? Lease the building. Before we lease the building? FIND A BUILDING! I literally worked everything backwards, until I had a list of things to do before I got to my end goal!
After I finished my list, I created this spreadsheet (I got the idea from The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, I’ll post it at the end of this article). It’s a weekly calendar that I fill out every Sunday. Each week, I do something that will get me one step closer to achieving my end goal.
3. It’s okay to have a social life.
While trying to achieve a goal, it’s very easy to convince yourself that the only way for you to achieve those goals is to cut yourself out of the world and just HUSTLE! This is far from the case! Just like when you’re trying to do everything yourself, making achieving your goals your only will lead to burn out and anxiety. Try to take some time out each week to relax. Be with your significant other or your kids. Go to brunch with the girls. Put work out of your mind!
You could even go a step further and take a week and just be! A good way to do this would be to take a girls trip, leave the business behind for a while. It will be there when you get back! When you return, you’ll be refreshed, inspired, and full of new ideas. You’ll feel like you can breathe easy for a while.
Running on fumes.
Ambitious people run on fumes a lot of the time and don’t want to admit that their ambition is overwhelming! When you’re not taking the time to make sure you’re doing okay in the process of achieving your goals, your ambition can overtake you, causing anxiety!
Just remember to take a step back, ask for help, and have a few friends to help take your mind off of things for a few days! Your body will thank you!